The Correspondents: Sol Aragones exposes teen sex

Kiko, not his real name, openly admitted that at the age of 13, he already had sex with 8 out of 11 of his girlfriends.

He said it all started when he occasionally saw his cousin do it with a boarder of theirs in their apartment. He grew curious.

And one night, he decided to try it with the female partner of his cousin.

“Noong una nanginginig pa nga ako, pero masarap nang maranasan ko… Kaya inaaraw-aaraw ko na.. (At first I was nervous, but it when I tried it, it was ecstatic; that’s why I do it daily),” he joked.

He blamed his friends, the Internet, pornographic materials like bold movies and sex scandals for his early exposure to sex.

But when Sol Aragones asked if he knew the consequences of his having several sex partners, he jokingly answered: “Mabubuntis ang babae, tapos iiwan ko na, kanya-kanyang kaming buhay na, (she will get pregnant, then I will leave her; we’ll go on our separate ways).”

Kiko’s friend, Jimmy, not his real name, also said it was his curiosity that led him to his sexual experiments. He got curious after his science teacher discussed the different parts of the body in class.

“Kasi noong iniisip ko, ano bang feeling nito, masarap ba na masakit o ano? Pag pinasok mo ikaw ba masasaktan o parehas kayo (I was wondering, if the feeling would be pleasurable or painful, would it be painful to me or both of us)?” Jimmy said.

He admitted that if his parents, his father who’s working and his mother who’s an OFW were less busy and more focused on him, he would not have engaged in such lifestyle.

He was only 14 years old when he first engaged in phone sex with his 17-year old girlfriend. Then one day, when he was on his way to school and his girlfriend was on her way home, she asked him to cut classes. And they had sex on a nearby vacant lot.

That first time led to more sexual encounters for Jimmy. After doing it a lot of times, he said he became more confident, and had sex with all three of his girlfriends.

Bragging on experiences

Kiko and Jimmy’s clique looked like a group of young boys just raving about a blockbuster movie they just saw.

But when Sol Argones and The Correspondents team sat down to join them in their conversation; they were shocked at what they had heard that revealed how differently teenagers think nowadays.

Each of the boys was bragging about how he starred in his own sexual experiences.

According to Kiko and Jimmy, having sexual experiences make you cool and “in.”

This growing “in” notion among the youth was reflected in a study by the University of the Philippines Population Institute. In 1994, only 2 percent of the youth aged 15 and below had sexual experiences. But in 2002, it increased to 16 percent, based on the Young Adult Fertility and Sexuality Survey.

Most of these adolescents are exposed to media, where 55 percent are young boys who take hold of pornographic material.

After their short discussion about sex, Sol Aragones tried to explain the implications of their having sex at an early age. They were a bit enlightened, but she knew that her words were not enough to provide the young boys the guidance they needed.

Integrate in curriculum

The growing number of the youth who engage in sex at an early age pushed the Department of Education (DepEd) to integrate sex education in the curriculum of students in public schools from grade 4 to high school.

This project of DepEd started in 2005, but was called Adolescent Reproductive Health (ARH) through life skills –based education.

“Ginamit iyong term na sex education na sa iba naman pag narinig iyong salitang sex education, nakakalimutan iyong education (laughs) at sex lang ang naiisip (The term sex education was used, and to others, when they hear the word sex education, they neglect the word education and focus on the sex),” said ARH project director, Celia Eugenio said.

She added, based on the agreement between the United Nations and the Philippine government, the youth has the right to be aware about the realities of life, so to help them make a decision when faced with it in the future.

“Para pong pumasok sa isip ko na parang maganda po itong matutunan para malaman po naming iyong gawaing tama sa masama (It is good for me to learn this, so that I’ll know what’s right from wrong),” Aizel, a student who learned integrated sex education in class said.

After a series of pilot testing in various schools, the module used for teaching Adolescent Reproductive Health was evaluated “very good” and positively accepted by teachers, students, and parents.

This feedback was the basis for the recommendation to integrate sex education in the curriculum of more schools— 79 elementary schools and 80 secondary schools.

Criticisms

But this decision by the DepEd earned various criticisms from different sectors of society, including the church.

“We reiterate that the Church is not against sex education. But for reasons of morality and religious faith, we strongly object to the proposed sex education program. The program is devoid of any substantive moral and religious value formation,” the Catholic Bishop’s Conference of the Philippines said in a statement.

Dr. Lucille Montes, a doctor of counseling in psychology, also said that DepEd should stop the teaching of sex education.

After studying the modules being used by teachers in pilot testing schools, she said that the modules are but propaganda of people pushing for population control and the use of contraceptives and condoms.

She said that the parents are still the right people to teach children about sex. And instead, schools should just guide the parents on how they can teach their children about sex, she added.

“Iyong school po, siyempre dapat itinuturo na nila iyon dati pa para alam namin (The school should have taught us about it a long time ago, so that we know),” Kiko said.

“Kung nandito ang nanay ko, di siguro ako mapapariwara kasi mahigpit akong binabantayan ng nanay ko dati (If my mom was here, I wouldn’t have gone astray, because my mom strictly watched over me before),” Jimmy said

With the many things out there that can influence the minds of the youth, it is only through a combined effort by the school, church, society and home to guide the youth. –Cherrie Anne Ongteco, Multi-Media Producer, The Correspondents